Motherhood Speeches

 

 

Naploean Bonaparte once said, “The future destiny of a child is always the work of the mother.” “Let France have good mothers and she will have good sons”.

Abraham Lincoln said of his mother, “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my... mother.”

“If I have done anything in life worth attention I feel sure that I inherited the disposition from my mother.” Booker T. Washington.

George Washington said, “All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.”

There can be little doubt as to the significant role a mother has in the life of her children. She will either provide a strong foundation upon which her children can launch into their future or she will provide obstacles they must overcome, but the importance of a mother’s influence cannot be overstated.

We often pay tribute to the virtue of motherhood, but I’m not sure we have truly understood the potential of a mother’s influence or her importance to society. Perhaps it’s just too easy to take mothers for granted, but I think there is more to it than that. I believe there are elements that help form the institution of motherhood that also serve to diminish the perception of its true value. We can’t change those elements, but we can identify them as stumbling blocks and we can turn them into stepping stones moving us closer to a greater understanding of an appreciation for the true value of motherhood.

My name is Betty Aukerman, but my preferred title is mom. I am blessed to hear that quite often. I have 10 children, 6 of whom are married making that 16 children as well as 10 grandchildren. When I was growing up I didn’t plan on having a large family. I didn’t plan on having a small family. It wasn’t that I planned one way or the other. I simply didn’t think much about my future family.

I planned on having a career because I believed that what people did outside of the home was their true contribution to life. It wasn’t that I thought what happened in the family wasn’t important.........I simply didn’t give much thought to it.

Apparently I am not alone. Several groups including Rasmussen and Forbes as well as others have conducted surveys asking children what they wanted to be when they grew up. Their answers included the typical occupations one might expect to find, but being a mother didn’t make any of those lists. And while being a mother didn’t make the lists other career aspirations did such as a being a super hero, a baby sitter, a u Tuber, a tatoo artist, and a clown. There is nothing wrong with wanting to aspire to any of those things, but it does point out a glaring omission when being a mother isn’t something little girls aspire to be when they grow up. And yet, I can relate, because being a mom wasn’t on my radar either.

We need to change the perception of motherhood and we need to value it more.

We have all seen the disintegration of so many families and we have heard the correlation between the decline of the family unit and the breakdown of society. And yet most of us see our own family as an entity in and of itself having very little power to influence the rest of society. As a result, I believe we have failed to understand the important role each mother has in her own home. As mothers, we have not lost our ability to influence, but we have lost the perception of our value.

Perhaps, one of the reasons for that, is that so much of what mothers do is relegated to oblivion. Let me try and illustrate my point.

A few minutes ago I quoted from several notable men. All of whom attributed their success to their mothers. But what do we know about their Mother’s? What did they do that helped shape the next generation? Do we know their methods or techniques? Do we even know their names? I contend that, we know very little about their individual contributions.

What we do know about them is based more on generalities of all women who lived at that time. We know that they couldn’t vote or hold public office. It’s highly unlikely they worked outside of the home and their primary job was probably to be a wife and mother.

More privileges, responsibilities and opportunities were granted to men. Men of course were husbands and fathers, but they were also business men, doctors, lawyers, farmers, craftsman and politicians. Women had very little opportunity to aspire to any of those things. They were simply to be a wife a mother.

But women wanted more. They still wanted to be married and have children, but they wanted the same opportunities that men had to pursue other occupations and over time I believe we have achieved that dream. Today, mothers have careers outside of the home and women are in almost every profession. Most of us can see the benefit of that.

However, the perceived value of motherhood took a hit as an indirect consequence. Not only were women allowed to pursue other career options, but their perceived value was greater if they did. And I believe that trend continues today.

One of the unexpected outcomes of women entering the work force has been that all mothers have been assigned to one group or the other. Either they have a career or they don’t. In the past this division has been referred to as the mommy wars and has been fueled by the emotionally charged questions of which side is right or which group is better.

If we dare find any humor in this division, it undoubtedly has to be in the titles given to those 2 groups. First, you have the full time stay at home mom. The inference is that anyone who works away from home is not a full time wife and mother. Yet, I’m not aware of any mother who stops being a wife and mother when they go to work. And on the other hand, we have the working mom. The implication is that anyone who stays at home full time doesn’t work. We really need to come up with better job descriptions, but the point is we have allowed the issue of a career outside of the home to divide mothers. Rather than focus on the issue of a career, I believe we need to redirect our focus to that inherent worth and value of all mothers.

The issue of having a career or not will probably always be a source of division. But all mothers can find unity in the conviction that their greatest contribution will be to their family.

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis said, “If you bungle raising your children, I doubt if anything else you do well matters very much”.

If we are to change the perception of motherhood we need to begin by understanding and overcoming some of the obstacles that have served to diminish the perceived value of motherhood.

One of the obstacles has to do with the issue of qualifications. Our qualifications are based on our ability to do a particular job, our education and our experience. No one ever becomes a doctor by accident and the same is true of almost every other profession........except for mothers.

What are the qualification for someone becoming a mother? There are none. Barring issues with infertility almost any woman can become a mother.

We assume that the most remarkable careers are those defined by a long list of qualifications that only a few can achieve. Yet, if we are to value motherhood we must change that assumption.

Another obstacle hindering the perceived value of motherhood comes from the reality that we usually think the best jobs provide the greatest income. Yet, being a stay at home mom always requires financial sacrifices. And when a woman works outside of the home, it is always her job away from home that brings the financial benefits. There is simply no monetary gain associated with motherhood.

There is also no way to evaluate the job a mother is doing. Most of us can tell a good mother vs. a bad one, but there are no clear cut objectives for a mother to fulfill.

There are no qualifications, no evaluations and there is no financial incentive. Everything about motherhood is subjective.

Furthermore, motherhood, by its very nature, requires an interdependent relationship. A mother must depend on others to secure her position. There may not be anything inherently wrong with that. However, the intent here is simply to point out that it is impossible for a mother to be entirely independent as some of us would like to be.

A woman cannot become a mother by herself. She cannot get pregnant alone.

A woman can become a mother through birth or adoption, but a woman needs a child in order to become a mother.

And so motherhood requires an interdependent relationship not only to become a mother but to be a mother.

And while it may be necessary to be a single parent, I believe children are best served when both parents embrace an interdependent relationship with each other based on love, respect and commitment.

We cannot allow the virtue of independence to be more important than the value of interdependence, because interdependence is the glue that holds families together and will thus help form the foundation of a strong society.

Another obstacle hindering the perceived value of motherhood comes as a result of the abortion industry.

When society says that a child can be discarded, that child has no worth. And if one child can be discarded than all children can be discarded. The value of a child is then arbitrarily assigned only to those children who are loved, wanted and valued. The child doesn’t have any inherent worth and value, but only what is ascribed to it. Thus, the logical conclusion is, caring for that child is equally not very important. We need to change that perception.

The value of motherhood has not changed, but we have been using the wrong measuring stick to evaluate its worth. We have bought into the idea that what a mother does outside of the home is more important than what she does in her home. And the professional career has become the standard by which we have judged all else including motherhood. The methods of evaluating a career are appropriate for evaluating a career, but they become stumbling blocks when they are applied to motherhood.

Rather than allow those stumbling blocks to diminish the perceived value of motherhood, we need to use them as stepping stones, reminding us that motherhood is more than a career. Motherhood is a responsibility that changes our identity forever.

There are few bonds stronger than the love a mother has for her child. That love can provide a sense of belonging and a place of security in a way no else can. A mother will care about her child in a way no else ever will. And when we think a mother can be easily replaced we have misunderstood the true worth and value of a mother.

We live in a world that focuses on the externals of what we do rather than the internals of who we are. Yet, what we do is merely an outward manifestation of who we are. It is the inner character of a person and indeed of a nation that drives their actions for good or ill. And it is the development of the inner character of every child that is the mother’s greatest contribution. And every mother will find times to instill those qualities in her children in the messiness of life.

We can no longer allow the good of other careers to overshadow the best of motherhood. Motherhood is the first and best equal opportunity employer. Rich or poor, young or old, everyone has the same opportunity to become a great mother.

We value what we can touch. We strive for what we can control. We measure our success by what we can see. We cherish tangible things.

Motherhood is not tangible. And neither are the most valuable things in this world. Consider where the world would be if there was more love, kindness, goodness, gentleness, gratefulness, forgiveness, self-control, honesty, more hope, joy and peace! Those are the things that can turn the world right side up for good, and yet we can’t see any of them, but we can see the effect of all of them.

We can’t see the virtue of motherhood, but we can see the effect of it. A mother’s contributions are not relegated to oblivion, they are seen everywhere! And the outcome of her efforts have the potential to change the world.

We don’t need to change motherhood. We simply need to change our perception of it.

We need to value it more.

-Betty Auckerman, World Congress of Families IX, Salt Lake City, UT- October 2015, Power of Mothers Forum

Motherhood Matters

Who Needs Mothers? Everyone!
Shelly Locke—The Power of Mothers
 

  In light of the recent statement levied by the US Department of Justice, that "Children do not need a Mother and have no right to one" The Power of Mothers makes this response:

We as the Mothers are the Bringers of All Life and all mankind resides within our hands.  For there even to be children on the earth, they need a Mother first and foremost, to bring them into life! From there, it is the Mother who supplies the very nourishment and strength that sustains that life in every way, from the physical nutrition to the nurturing that builds that life in every way there is.
For the ways of Motherhood, engender on that life, the impress of beauty, tenderness, a sense of self, a regard for one's fellowman, the tools necessary for that life to succeed!
 Mothers bear within their souls, the spark of life, cultivated throughout the generations, which shapes the tender child, to form a life—magnificent and great.  Without the Mother's influence for good, all humanity goes awry.  For she is the Seedbed of all Life—The Inculcator of the Virtues and the values that hold society together, and thus instilled, she lights the world ablaze, by her goodness and her grace, and lays down the path for all mankind to follow, that society thus flourishes and thrives.
Hers is an irreplaceable role, full of richness and the definition of all life.  For with a Mother's love, the soul is nurtured, brought to bear for the life that it should be.  Without a Mother's gentle guiding hand, the child's life is bereft of all that's good. 

Who needs Mothers? Everyone! Every child of mankind—Every  Nation of the Earth—Every culture clime and creature!

For the future of all time, hangs here in the balance; and without the Mothers of the Earth, there simply isn't one!

The Mother's Call To Arms

Mothers of the Earth Arise! Take on your noble sphere.
Stand strong in the conviction of your value and your worth. 
For all mankind is indebted unto you.  From the least unto the greatest all started out with Mothers!
Our times stand in peril and we must stand together to build the framework of our lives on Motherhood—That the whole world comes to see, the greatness of her role, carried out from generations gone before.  
We are the Bringers of Mankind, The Shapers of the Lives and the Hope of the Future of the Earth! 
We occupy a place unique in the promulgation of mankind.
"For as the Mother goes, so goes the Nation." (The Worldwide Motherhood Initiative 2013)
Her character truly shapes the future for all time.
Let us band together, as the Mothers of the Earth, to speak out for the rights of children to possess the love of Mothers, to possess the strength of Mothers, and the indelible impress, she imprints upon each life.  For she leaves a mark upon a life to be sure and all mankind is blessed by her station, by her service and her love. Join with us at The Power of Mothers to make your voices heard for Motherhood, for her inimitable role and we will send a message loud and clear that Mothers Matter Everywhere—To Everyone! 
That without us, all mankind is simply lost!
And those who bring disgrace to Mothers shall bear the shame of it for all time immemorial, as they besmirch the holy name of God, every time they do.
For Mothers are the instruments of God, the vessels of His love to the children He holds dear.  
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and firm in your conviction to serve proudly in your role as Mothers of the Earth, united in the cause of humankind.
To bring to pass a future bright and clear, where all shall be granted out the freedom, the protection and the right to a Mother's love, who is ever born upon the Earth!